A recent and sudden change in a family member’s living
arrangements, translated into a recent and sudden change in mine. Of course,
this family member, who for the sake of privacy shall be named Alice, is always
welcomed. I would do whatever necessary
to ensure a warm and welcoming environment, especially if the circumstances
leading to this sudden change weren’t so good.
The guest bedroom was ready with furnishings so there was no
problem in deciding where in the house Alice would stay and call home for a
while. My most important concern was to be sure that she was comfortable and
felt welcomed without the slightest hint of this new arrangement being an
intrusion – no matter how long this living arrangement may last. Of course,
Alice need not worry, my home is her home forever more. I’m pretty sure Alice
knows this, but I still wanted to be sure there was no hint of her feeling like
As soon as I received the news, I quickly did a survey of
the guest bedroom. The dressers were full and so was the closet. I needed to
make space for incoming clothes and personal items that would now call that room home.
Was the room ready to be comfortable and welcoming? I had been using the room
as my own personal valet service, and sure, I could empty out drawers and
create space for Alice’s belongings, but where would I put everything?
Once I began to see just what was being stored in the room,
it was easy to come to the conclusion that what I was storing, I was not using.
I hadn’t used much of it in a long time, so there was no point in transferring
it all to a holding spot elsewhere in the house. It was easy to make the
decision to donate much of it and before I knew it, a donation bag was chock
full. I had become my own client, asking
myself the same prodding questions I would pose to anyone facing the decision
to let go of long-owned and long-ago-used things.
As far as the personal mementos and other decorative items, I
knew I was keeping those and needed to find alternative places. I had other
closet space and shelves that had room to spare, so those items quickly found
new neighborhoods where they could settle down. That was the best part of this
quick bedroom re-set. Luckily, thanks to previous purging and ever-evolving
organizing routines, empty spaces were readily available, and I didn’t need to
do much re-arranging. No robbing Peter to pay Paul.
Of course, there is still some refining to do. Not all the
clothes that were transferred from one closet to another, or from one dresser
to another will stay there. Let’s face it, I’m sure I have more than what I
need. I see another full donation bag in my not so distant future. Alice is
settled comfortably in her room, and that really is all that matters.
Your phone is ringing and your living arrangements are about
to change. Are you ready?